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Ask Anita - Do you have any advice on performing cunnilingus (or DATY) on a woman?

Wow, gentlemen, come sit on Anita’s knee for this one! Yes, there are some gifted tongue’s out there amongst my regular clientele so those of you that are reading this, do not read into this as my critique of any of your cunnilingus skills. Many of you are great at DATY (or dining at the table) and some may be simply out of practice as there are many gentlemen that only have sex on the rare birthday or anniversary occasions. Those of you that have a long list of women that you spend time with (either you are a hobbyist or have regular girlfriends on the side), well, I am guessing those tongues are getting stretched out regularly.

There’s a common complaint among gentlemen regarding performing cunnilingus on a woman and I am expecting you can guess what that is? It’s the odor and/or taste from down under that keeps men from being excited at the prospect of applying their lips and tongue on their partner’s vaginal lips (also known as the “other lips”) and clitoris. Those of you that have applied your tongue and lips to my Penelope the Pussy can tell you, I do shower between my clients so there is only fresh tasting and fragrant, delicious pussy to enjoy. So my biggest suggestion to all of you gentlemen is that you suggest to your partner that they take a shower with you prior to your day/night of fun. It gets you both feeling extra frisky and then you don’t have to get “clocked” for being critical of her taste/smell. 

Another reason for showering together is that sometimes women feel a bit self-conscious of their smell/taste and that can be the reason behind them turning down DATY with their partner. I have even mentioned in a prior blog that the reason why many escort/providers don’t want a “John” to perform DATY on them is because they realize they haven’t showered/cleaned up well down there before their appointment and they don’t want a bad hygiene mention in a possible future “TER” review. I know that is gross but unfortunately not every escort feels like I do about cleanliness. The beautiful spinner women likely get a pass on this, because, well, they are beautiful.   

The following are a few tips that will help the technique of those rusty tongues and those silver tongue gentlemen can even gain some improvement just as this wild tigress worked since 2014 in improving her cock worship/blow job technique:

1.  Lick her like an ice cream cone with big soft licks from stem to stern with a wide flat tongue stimulate all the nerves in her genital area. Go deliciously slow to make her feel like a yummy dessert being savored, or speed it up a bit and focus more on the clitoral area to push her towards orgasm. Just know that the clitoris is the most sexually sensitive part of the human female genitalia. Translation: it’s better to be gentle and methodical than too rough.

2. Dive in. Build up the intensity level gradually. Once you're into it, use your whole face. Bury yourself in her pussy, get your tongue in as far as possible, use your nose for more pressure. Not only does this feel good physically, it lets her know you are really into her taste and smell. Hint: if your eyelids aren't sticky, you're not doing it right.

3. Insert two fingers in her vagina while licking her clit. Curl those fingers up towards your tongue, capturing her clit and G-Spot between your mouth and fingers. As your tongue licks up pull down with your fingers, get a rhythm going. You might want to read my prior blog regarding fingering a woman as sometimes men get too rough fingering and it hurts and can turn your partner off.

4.  Let your partner straddle your face. If lying back to be licked is too passive for her, let her hop on top. From there she can control the pressure and area of contact. To make this position even more fun, get tied down to the bed before she mounts you, and maybe she'll even boss you around with firm directives: "stick your tongue out!", "open your mouth!" "suck it boy", and so on. Bottom munchers will, well, lick it up.

5. Mix it up. If all you do is lick up and down, up and down, (“fence painting"), chances are that it'll get boring to your partner after a while. Vary your movements, add pressure, use your lips, breath and teeth in addition to your tongue, change positions, use your hands. Get your whole creative body involved.

6. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Most women orgasm in response to rhythmic stimulation, so if you're in a groove that is building her up, don't suddenly change what you're doing. Finding the balance between variety and consistency is the art to being an oral expert.

7. Play the part. Combine your oral sex experiences with a variety of different erotic attitudes. Are you worshipping her pussy or are you controlling her with your tongue? Are you mystic lovers building an erotic energy ball together? Whatever your attitude, the psychic space you play in can make your sex connection that much hotter.

8. Suck her into your mouth. This is my favorite and gets me off usually. Gentle suction is a nice variation on the licks and downward pressure of most cunnilingus. While you've got a nice piece of her sucked in your mouth, lick it while maintaining the suction.

9.  Lick her asshole. Use a barrier for hygiene, or if she is very clean and you don't penetrate, you may choose bare tongue on skin. The anal area is rich in nerve endings so all the varieties of oral stimulation--licking, sucking, nibbling--can feel wonderful.

10. Add toys. Toys are a natural complement to oral play. Check in with your partner about whether she’d like a G-spot vibrator inside of her while you’re licking away. You might also like experimenting with edible gels.

11. Love your job. Pussy munching is best when both people love it. Doing it should feel really good and exciting to the giver. As good as it is for her cunt, it hopefully is for your mouth. It's something you're doing together. If you don't want to do it, don't. Performing sex because you feel obliged will kill that spark of sexual vitality in you quicker than anything. Follow the spark of your desire and you can't go wrong.

The above techniques can serve as a great place to start, but keep in mind that every woman likes different things when it comes to cunnilingus. Some women like oral and manual stimulation at the same time, while others don’t. Some orgasm best from tongue circles around the clitoris, others prefer a light sucking motion. Watching and listening to her reactions to find what works best, but there’s another old standby that works just as well (if not better): ask your partner! With your face buried in her cunt and your ears muffled by her creamy thighs, it can be hard to talk about how things are going.

So look for more subtle signs of her enjoyment. If she raises her hips to meet your mouth, that is a very good sign. A lubricating vagina and swelling vulva and labia that spread open as they become engorged are a sure sign that she's responding favorably. So is a growing clitoris. If you recall I posted pictures of mine in a blog earlier this summer and called it a “little dick”. An all over skin flush, rapid breathing, and writhing are clues. Clutching the sheets is excellent, and so are hands on the back of your head pushing you in for more. The clitoris is extremely sensitive after orgasm, so let her have a chance to cool down and settle back in before attempting any other action. 

Gentlemen, enjoy some delectable pussy as a calorie free meal. Or for those of you that can’t get your wife or significant other interested in receiving cunnilingus, come dine on this wild tigress!

Hugs and voraciously hungry kisses,

Anita